Finding answers within and understanding your choices
A woman who lives in Dubai named Shemkiba Jamshiti asks a question about marrying a man she met five months ago, and he says he loves her and wants her to marry him. She says she is scared and doesn’t know if he is telling the truth. “If I marry him,” she asks, “will I be happy? Or shouldn’t I trust him. Please help me, I don’t want to make any mistakes that would make my future bad”.
This blessed being is hearing her own being speak to her, and yet denies its worth. Her being speaks of fear and this is more important than whether to marry or not at this time. This one so desires to take always the right step, but doesn’t understand the purpose of her being, her purpose to hear that that it speaks to her. She seeks a whole world of love ahead of her.
She fears that she is not youthful, and yet in many ways she is still very youthful. There is much time to decide this and perhaps in time, if the fear diminishes, she may see him in a different light. But first, she must address her fear; it speaks to her for a reason. Never deny that feeling that comes within your body. Listen to it. It is a tool of great learning. She needs to be calm, to be still, and to ask herself why she feels this and listen for the answer.
Tell her she has lots of time. It matters not what he needs, it matters what she desires for her path. She does not know what love is. She tries very hard to understand a new world with an old world vision. Tell her to seek her own understanding of her choices.
There is much confusion in this young one. It is not a time to make vows that would hold her for a long time. It is a time for her to grow and to be. To be radiant in the light of her own being. She wants to know if she doesn’t accept this offer, that she will never be asked again. Too much seeking that which is not yet ready to be. Tell her: Be in the now, my child. Love your being, grow in its radiance.
Hello. I feel I should probably not still be devoting so much energy to thinking about this and feeling it so strongly still, but I feel as though i can’t help it…. I had a baby over a year ago and the father never took enough responsibility to get involved. I was iiving with my mom, and she got sick right after i had my baby, and I had to move over two hours away. At first the father and i talked a lot, we still were quite involved with one another, but he’s only seen our daughter several times since i’ve left. I wanted to live with him, but never felt this was possible. I feel very, very alone now and we have barely spoken in quite some tiem. I do not feel resolved, but bereft. i still miss him, and he sometimes says he wants to be involved, but does seemingly nothing. Has he never loved me, though it seemed he did? Will he ever become more involved, or will he just disappear for good? Will my baby ever have a father, and will I ever have a partner? I’m broke and i have no friends or connections here, except some messy sort of unhappy ones with my mom and dad, and i want to be a better mother, but feel totally trapped and awful and don’t know what to do. I suppose i’ll have to get social services, and he’ll be nade to pay child support. this makes me feel guilty. CAn you give me any idea as to why my ex-boyfriend is not getting involved and how he feels toward us, and what I should best do for my daughter and myself, as well as everyone else??Sometimes i am afraid I am an awful mother and a failure as a person. i keep feeling suicidal but trapped by obligation and unable to know how to turn things around to be healthy and happy and give my daughter the kind of life she deserves. I know i have to chane my focus to the positive, but i can’t resolve my feelings about being so completely alone raising her, and i think about her father every day…..
I hae to choose between three wonderful men that I am dating. All are in the very early stages of a relationship, and until now have not been serious. Now all three have made their feelings for me clear, and each wants to be in an exclusive relationship with me. I feel it is too soon to know which man is the one for me, yet they are forcing me to choose. How can I make the right decision based on so little information about each man? I don’t want to make a mistake, and let the right man walk away.
Hi, can someone please help me with this question?The quote: “I treat everyone else the way I want to be treated”.If it is coming from inside my heart, what would the reverse be?Please anyone help me with this?Ana